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Good to see you here Dael.
JustJess covered it pretty well. I'll give it my own analytical spin.
Hopefully some of these ideas will apply. If not, give us some more input.
Any relationship should be a synergy of the parts. Most people are more then happy to help another in need That's what relationships are all about. They provide insurance. However people dislike being leaned on. They resent being a crutch. It's the difference between falling down and asking another to help you up or asking them to cary you.
If you are planning your holidays around the idea of them being lame and boring, how can you expect anything else? I see this as the real issue. If your town is borring make plans to visist for a few days then go somewhere else. Go with your school friends. Suggest a family Christmas ski-trip or something. Or use the time alone to achieve goals. Catch up on reading, relaxing, exploring, whatever. Turn this time into something you will be looking forward too.
Asking your girl to be there for you is a bandaid solution. Image. Her friends ask her to go out and she tells them,
"Sorry, I have plans to spend time with my man on the net."
"Is he crippled in a hospital or something?"
I am glad you went with your instincts and didnt' call her out on this. There is nothing less attractive then neediness. The tigheter you try to hold on to someone the more they will slip from your grasp.
Cheers!
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