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this is a tough question but I think for many women and men, the fear of living out your days alone is present.
I agree that perhaps he wasn't the right one. I know you're looking for me to say something uplifting. There is every chance that you will meet someone new and right for you. There is every chance that you will love the deepest of loves again. But there is also the chance that you will not meet someone right, and it happens. So many people never marry, never find the right person, never have kids, and are "alone".
But "alone" is what you make of it. You can be alone but not lonely. If you have good friends, a good sense of self and things you love around you, you can be happy. Life is not linear and not everyone can have all the same things. The key is to be happy with what you have and also to make the most of your life and the opportunities that come your way.
Your life is not defined by your finding someone else to love and to love you back. I hope you find someone new to share your life and love with, but in the meantime, love yourself far more.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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