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Originally Posted by Lasereth
B. My parents aren't helping me one bit. I'm the <I>only</I>(and I do mean only) person I know besides my brother whose parents aren't paying for their college at my school. I took out $40,000 worth of loans to get into my university and have to pay it all back starting 6 months after I graduate. My parents <B>are</B> able to pay for me and my brother's college, they just choose not to. My dad wanted to pay for it but my stepmom literally wouldn't let him. My stepmom says no kid who has his college paid for appreciates it, yet her college was completely paid for by her relatives and she was given anything she wanted (including cars) until she got a job after college. I love the irony.
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That's not irony. That's self-interest on her part. Oh, she may herself want to believe what she's saying, but underneath, I would suspect this reasoning:
1) You're not hers, and I'm assuming your brother isn't hers, either. So, biologically you're not continuing her line, don't have a huge emotional tie to her, and therefore are a lesser priority than...
2) Money for her old age. She wants the $40-80 grand your dad wanted to put out for both of you safe in their joint account for a more comfortable old age. One in which, statistically, shes likely to outlive your dad.
And hey, there's an argument to be made for that. But her trying to justify withholding the money to teach you self-reliance is pretty hypocritical -- self-interest in the disguise of a lesson in "virtue."
My parents paid for everything, back in the day when state tuition in California ran, oh, $100 a semester and community college was basically free. I got a 3.93 average and have always valued my college education. More so every day, in fact, when I see what kind of hoops the generations that followed me have to jump through to get one.