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Sage · 12-28-2005, 07:39 PM

Start talking to as many people as possible in a day, and start frequenting the same places over and over again. That's how I did it when I found I didn't have *any* friends in my town other than Martel. We just started going to the same places that held our interest over time, and we talked with the people there over and over again. That's how we met our big web of friends- we like going to the games/comics store, and we started talking to the guy behind the counter, met the regulars, and now we're regulars! Making new friends can seem like a LOT more work than you're used to, because it's easy to make friends when you're in school but a lot harder when you hit the "real world".

Just be your chatty, upbeat self, talk to everyone, and call home a lot until you find your "nitche." Don't be discouraged if it takes a while- eventually you'll find your place!

ohohoh- another great thing- look in the paper (or the independent paper if your city has one) and see if there's listings for free activities during the week. I know the Ashville independent paper has a GAJILLION listings for free things during the week- religious stuff/new age stuff/dog walks/volunteer ops/discussion groups/book groups/gallery openings/ etc etc etc. Just start making an effort to go to one or two a week until you find something that you really like. That way, you'll have a new fun thing to look forward to, with a whole new group of people who like doing at least one thing you like. I'll bet it will be easy to find some friends that way!!

12-28-2005, 07:39 PM	#2 (permalink)
Sage hoarding all the big girl panties since 2005 Location: North side	Start talking to as many people as possible in a day, and start frequenting the same places over and over again. That's how I did it when I found I didn't have any friends in my town other than Martel. We just started going to the same places that held our interest over time, and we talked with the people there over and over again. That's how we met our big web of friends- we like going to the games/comics store, and we started talking to the guy behind the counter, met the regulars, and now we're regulars! Making new friends can seem like a LOT more work than you're used to, because it's easy to make friends when you're in school but a lot harder when you hit the "real world". Just be your chatty, upbeat self, talk to everyone, and call home a lot until you find your "nitche." Don't be discouraged if it takes a while- eventually you'll find your place! ohohoh- another great thing- look in the paper (or the independent paper if your city has one) and see if there's listings for free activities during the week. I know the Ashville independent paper has a GAJILLION listings for free things during the week- religious stuff/new age stuff/dog walks/volunteer ops/discussion groups/book groups/gallery openings/ etc etc etc. Just start making an effort to go to one or two a week until you find something that you really like. That way, you'll have a new fun thing to look forward to, with a whole new group of people who like doing at least one thing you like. I'll bet it will be easy to find some friends that way!! __________________ Sage knows our mythic history, King Arthur's and Sir Caradoc's She answers hard acrostics, has a pretty taste for paradox She quotes in elegiacs all the crimes of Heliogabalus In conics she can floor peculiarities parabolous -C'hi Last edited by Sage; 12-28-2005 at 07:41 PM..