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Twice the length of the relationship? You've got to be kidding. I find it hard to believe that a 1 year relationship would take two years to get over. I've been in the situation and it took less than a month. So exactly, what are we talking about? Alot of times I have not dated as quickly after a relationship, but it really had nothing to do with getting over the girl. Instead, it was me trying to be more wise and find someone who I am more likely to have a loyal and loving relationship with.
The problem with this is that it should not take very long to get over the relationship. Any somewhat intelligent person can figure out when things are going bad. However, I think what takes people time to get over is theire naive fantasies that never really existed to begin with. A good example is that guy in the 40 year old virgin movie that was obsessed with that girl. I think most people that have tough times with break ups are in the same way delusional of what was ever there. They are obsessed with something about the person or the fantasy of spending their life with them. Perhaps something sexual even.
The only time I could think of long recovery time being legitimate is if the person you are in the relationship with dies. I've known someone who has lost two fiancees, so I can see how that really has long term effects.
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