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Hello and welcome to the wonderful world of swinging! I've been a swinger for a little over a year now. My bf & I are one of the host couples for our local swing club. (We greet people, answer questions, try to make people feel comfortable, etc.)
I first got into it with my bf at a friend's wedding, of all places! Actually, it was after the reception, and it was us, another couple and the newlyweds left. We all were getting very friendly and things progressed naturally. That was about 4 yrs ago.
My bf was the one that brought up the subject of swinging. A friend of ours had friends that were opening a club in our city and she invited us to go, meet the owners, and help out. That first dance was almost a disaster for me! My bf was having a great time. I, on the other hand, was trailing him like a lost puppy. I almost cried near the end of the night. The idea of the whole thing seemed to overwhelming. I think I was just very nervous.
My bf & I haven't had too many problems, just because we communicate well and stick to our ground rules. Our rules are:
1. We play together. If one person doesn't want to play, then the other doesn't get to. And we don't go to separate rooms.
2. We communicate. If one doesn't like something, or just isn't comfortable, we say something. Don't bottle it up.
We like to get to know who we would like to play with. That's one way we deal with STD's. Also, always use condoms. Don't let anyone talk you out of them.
We have met some really great people and had some great parties. I can't imagine not being a part of this lifestyle. If you decide to become a swinger, check out a swinger club near you or a swinger website. That's a great way to see what the lifestyle can hold for you. Good luck, have fun and just be honest with yourself and those around you.
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