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First off : dude. You're not in love with her. You're obsessed about her, but you're not in love with her.
Go out, find someone else. That's the easiest way to deal with it. You went for it, she doesn't want it, move on with your life. If you meet other people and find another girl to fall for, she won't be that big a deal anymore and you can go back to just being friends.
You're falling into a common beginner's trap when it comes to dating; you're letting yourself get way too wrapped up in a girl where the outcome is either uncertain or she's just plain uninterested. As you get more practice you'll learn how to make your approach without putting that emotional emphasis on it. But the only way to get practice is to just get out there and do it. It's easy if you're in school, but not overly challenging even if you're not. Go to bars, go to coffee shops. Go out with friends. Have friends introduce you to other friends. Let people know you're on the market, too. Use your network of friends (and family, if you're close with them) to your advantage and just start meeting people. Eventually you'll click with someone.
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I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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