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To me honesty is the most important thing in a relationship and as a part of that cheating is the most hurtful thing you can do to a person. That doesn't mean I would never take the person back however.
The way I see it there are two types of cheating: "affairs" and "one night stands". I think these two are pretty self explanatory and my opinion of what to do depends on what type of cheating we're talking about.
If it's an affair that represents serious issues in the relationship that needed to be fixed and should have been brought up long before the cheater goes after another person. If you have problems with a relationship you aren't interested in fixing then you end it before you go looking for another one. This is unforgivable.
With a one night stand however I feel a bit differently, While this still shows a disregard for both the relationship and the other person's emotions, to me it seems like this can be the result of a temporary lapse in judgement or moment of weakness. It seems like the sort of thing that a person can do and have it truly be a mistake, that they really do regret and something that they will never do again. In that case, if it's a person who I've been in a relationship with for a long while and I really care about I could really forgive them and move past it. But only once would I take the person back, someone who repeatedly goes out and fools around on their SO is just as bad as someone in an affair to me.
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