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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414
Over my life, I have begun to realize that our body is nothing more than the car our mind drives around. We have it repaired when it is broken; we wash it; we put fuel in it; and we modify it with piercings, haircuts, shaving, clothes, etc.
The difference between the car that our body drives and the "car" that our mind drives is that we don't really get to pick the model our mind drives. In Sissy's case, she drove away in a model "M" when she should have and wanted to drive away in an model "F". So, she took her car to the shop and had her car modified to suit her mind - nothing more, nothing less. It's really no different than painting your "real" car a different color, jacking it up, cutting out a sunroof, etc. In a feeble attempt to be pop-topical: She pimped her ride!
In conclusion, if the people riding in Sissy's new car like the way it looks, feels, and performs - then the people that matter are satisfied.
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Cimarron29414: I showed Sissy this, and she was absolutely delighted with it as a metaphor for being transsexual, and shared it with some friends at an MTF board where she's a member, and it's been well received there.
I've mentioned my friend Jen, a middle-aged MTF in mid-transition, and the last time I exchanged e-mails with her I paraphrased your car metaphor for her. She's having a really, really rough time right now and you managed to make her day with this. She e-mailed this back, trying to help me understand what she was feeling (I have permission to pass this along):
"Imagine that you not only feel uncomfortable in your body, but you hate it, to the point that you actively avoid mirrors and getting an inadvertant glance of yourself in the reflection of a store window is enough to make you cringe. Imagine looking at your clothes every morning and feeling sick at having to put them on, or flinching internally every time someone calls you "Sir". Imagine hating your body so much that it seems wrong and evil, and wanting to punish it by cutting or burning it to get back at it for causing you such emotional pain that the physical pain is a relief. Imagine hating your body so much that you regularly consider mutilating yourself to remove the most offensive parts, or commit suicide to remove them all.
That's what it feels like, for many, to be transsexual."
Gilda