Somewhere in the ladies lounge, I recounted my dealings with the police after I was raped. This was in the United States in the 21st century. The police weren't helpful at all, and basically they decided that I pretty much asked for it... their decision was a little lengthier than that.. but they made a lot of judgements about the troublemaking Yankee chick who came down to cause trouble with the good ole boys.
In the ladies lounge the question was raised as to whether a drunk person can actually give consent... (For the record, in my incident, i was stone cold sober) I honestly beleive that a person who is drunk, cannot give consent. I don't beleive that in every case a person who's drunk is raped... and I also don't think what I call buyer's remorse is rape (ya know that's when you sober up and say - what the hell was I thinking)... there's a very fine line there.. and I'm not sure how to define that line... just that you'd know...
An attacker has a right to defend themselves to a degree... but a woman's past sexual history, her attire, her demeanor should not be allowed to be questioned... This is about the rapists actions.. and what they did... I don't think that he was led astray by an scantily clad drunken woman is a good excuse...
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