Originally Posted by reiii

I made a thread about this girl this summer and got some helpful feed back this is an update. Things did not go well for me. I'll summarize our rather long history with bullets so I dont bore you with long paragraphs.


- We met in 9th grade. We fell in love a few years later. It was a classic friendship to love change. We finished out senior year of highschool as an amazingly close relationship.
-We went to opposite regions of the country for freshman year
- She transferred to my school sophmore year, partly because of me
-Sophmore year we start to fall apart towards march. Too much routine, no passion.
-April she cheats on me with a kid she knows from home.
-She doesnt tell me about it
-June she cheats on me with the same kid again, then she calls for a "break" two days later so she can have room. I still dont know of the cheating
-June she takes advantage of the break to have sex with the cheater (guilt free?)
-July I make a thread of tfp and get some good advice. I did not know of the real problem then.
-September we get back together, and are good for a bit, but go back into our sophmore year rut pretty quickly. Again stress and the routine of school grinds us down.
-October, GF cheating time again (last time) same kid
-Novemeber, we break up before exams because I call her out on her increasing distance (she wanted to wait until the end of the semester to dump me). She has the gall to really emote when breaking up with me, and promise a reunion down the road.
-The week after the break up, we are hooking up (more so than when we dated) and enjoying each other as "singles". things are good.
-Two days ago, an anonymous "friend" IMs me online and tells me that my GF has cheated on me several times
-I get her to admit to some of it
-Today, I pertend I know more and the rest comes out

soooooooo....

Pretty clear cut right? I'm dated a dishonest slutty bitch who fucked me over? Too bad I still feel like comforting her when she goes to pieces over this. Too bad I still see myself with her in ten years. What my bullet points or any amount of writing can’t emphasize is that we are best friends. Even when our relationship sags, we are close as hell. Her (feeble) defense was that she couldnt break up with me because she knew life would be pretty damned bleak without me. She wanted her fun youthful college experience and to have me at the same time.

Keep in mind this girl is brilliant. I don't doubt in a few years shell be one of the country's leading scientists. How could she be so fucking childish/ retarded/ morally bankrupt? Her consolation prizes? she never had sex with him while we were dating. Oh, and she was never out of love, just felt trapped, and couldn’t bring her self to lose my comfort. And cant forget that she gave me almost 3 good years and only ½ of a cheating one. Also she wasnt attached to the kid she cheated with and rejected him recently, and plans on never seeing him again (my last request).

clearly we’re not talking at the moment. I was betrayed by the girl I loved, and lost my friend in the fall out. Problem is "I believe in a thing called love". It's my only non rational, non atheist belief. It’s the stupid notion that I found the perfect girl out of 3 billion. Well that feeling keeps me going. I can be furious with her, but in no way, have I kicked my belief. I am well aware I can move on to some extent with flings and crushes... But in my 20 year old brain, love is real.


Any advice?