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Wow, a Thomas Kinkade puzzle. damn... that's pretty out there, even for a guy.
Well, I used to get a little edgy about ktspktsp's gifts (and not just him, but past boyfriends as well), since I often read his level of energy investment as a measure of his thoughtfulness and care for me. Something "personal"/handmade, as you said, always means more to me than something bought in a store. But you know what? Some guys aren't really wired for the whole exchange of uber-meaningful, material things... the cards, gifts, etc. Their brains aren't up for that, whereas women (IMHO) are trained to be more in tune with the whole emotional/reciprocal thing. And I'm moving towards accepting that, as much as I dislike chalking behavior up to "gender differences."
For me, I have learned to put a lot less value on cards/gifts because I know that is not ktspktsp's primary way of telling me he loves me. I still love those things, of course... but I am trying to put more and more value in his gestures, his sacrifices of time and energy that no one else in my life gives to me. It is hard for me to let go of those material things, the need for words and affirmation... but I've also found that when he has less pressure on him, he comes through beautifully and surprises me with the most thoughtful gift. So, it goes both ways I guess.
My rambling point is: have you told him that you like those things? (flower, candle, CD, backrub)? Maybe he has no clue. Guys need a little nudging, sometimes. If you *have* told him, however, and he's still not getting it... hmm. How long have you been together? Are there other relationship issues hovering over (or under) this gift issue? I find I get more antsy about these things when my bf and I are struggling with bigger issues...
--two cents.
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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