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reiii · 12-07-2005, 11:20 AM

I thank you all for the outpouring of sympathy and advice. Last night when I weasled out of her the last of the dirty details, I told her I thought everything was going to be alright in time. I can't tell her off to her face, my instincts to make her feel better are pretty overwhelming. True to my socially stunted ways, I wrote her a note in a small lecture today, that basically told her to go fuck herself. Her struggling to keep composure, and making our lecturer double take was pretty satisfying to witness. The last time i saw her this miserable was when I left for college :/

some other fun details that make this whole thing all the more messy:

-our relationship started with us both cheating on our last ex's. those relationships were pretty non serious for both of us. To htis day, neither of us told our last ex's about the cheating.
- i made out with a girl senior year while trashed, I told her the next day. She forgave me. I never told her every little detail. I did tell her everything last night when she finally came out with her story. Mostly because I wanted her to juxtapose how my deepest darkest secret was from 2.5 years ago, and was NOTHING compared to hers. She had the gall to be really upset, "you kissed her bacck!?!?!?" uhhhh, you did everything but sex, a month ago while we were dating and didnt tell me.
- in april before the first cheating episode, she had some ground shaking family isssues (not my place to give details), she has been dealing with them throughout her entire infidelity.

thats all for now, I'll keep you posted on how I'm doing. I'm trying to keep active ,angry and focus my energy on finishing out my academic semester. In a week I'll be at home surrounded by my best friends, and wallowing in free time. Hopefully things will start to come together a bit there.

12-07-2005, 11:20 AM	#18 (permalink)
reiii unstuck in time Location: Nashville/D.C.	I thank you all for the outpouring of sympathy and advice. Last night when I weasled out of her the last of the dirty details, I told her I thought everything was going to be alright in time. I can't tell her off to her face, my instincts to make her feel better are pretty overwhelming. True to my socially stunted ways, I wrote her a note in a small lecture today, that basically told her to go fuck herself. Her struggling to keep composure, and making our lecturer double take was pretty satisfying to witness. The last time i saw her this miserable was when I left for college :/ some other fun details that make this whole thing all the more messy: -our relationship started with us both cheating on our last ex's. those relationships were pretty non serious for both of us. To htis day, neither of us told our last ex's about the cheating. - i made out with a girl senior year while trashed, I told her the next day. She forgave me. I never told her every little detail. I did tell her everything last night when she finally came out with her story. Mostly because I wanted her to juxtapose how my deepest darkest secret was from 2.5 years ago, and was NOTHING compared to hers. She had the gall to be really upset, "you kissed her bacck!?!?!?" uhhhh, you did everything but sex, a month ago while we were dating and didnt tell me. - in april before the first cheating episode, she had some ground shaking family isssues (not my place to give details), she has been dealing with them throughout her entire infidelity. thats all for now, I'll keep you posted on how I'm doing. I'm trying to keep active ,angry and focus my energy on finishing out my academic semester. In a week I'll be at home surrounded by my best friends, and wallowing in free time. Hopefully things will start to come together a bit there. __________________ "Jombe? The chocolate icing" -hedonism bot Last edited by reiii; 12-07-2005 at 11:29 AM..