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taboo - I disagree for several reasons.
First off, is it better for the kid do you think if two parents who don't love each other stay together? Or is it better for them to go their seperate ways? Would it be better for the kid if the spouse who's being cheated on found out and the divorce happened that way? Is it worth the risk?
Kids are very resilient and are able to cope with these things. I grew up in a single parent home without my father. For all that it caused me some hurt, I still think it was better for them to do that than to try to stay together on my account - my mum did what was best for her at the time without using me and my sisters as an excuse and in the end it made for a much healthier environment growing up than was likely to have resulted if she'd stayed.
Aside from that, kids are much more observant than most give them credit for and usually know when their parents don't love each other. You're not fooling them, so why use them as an excuse to continue lying?
The fact of the matter is that if you do love someone you will work it out and if you don't you and the other party deserve better than being lied to. A long marriage or kids don't change that.
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