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As I was reading this thread, and everyone said the same thing, I tended to agree. There are very few absolutes in this world where you have *no* choice. Shit happens, and you'll often be presented with a situation, in this case- neglect. But you always have that *choice*. The choice to cheat, to break up with them, etc. Having this choice means if you cheat, it was 100% you- despite the circumstances that led you to the situation.
Seeker does raise an interesting point though- what if at that fatal turning point, you don't see that you do have a choice? If your self-esteem is so horribly damaged that you don't have the ability to make that choice (the choice to call them on it, and either break up or try to resolve the issues in the open), is it still your fault? At that point, I would have so say yes, you can be driven to cheat- but only if you were so weak that you did not realize you had that choice. Your fault then, would be weakness of character, not necessary evil in cheating. I'm not trying to support those that cheat, but I think I do understand where one might truly feel they were driven to cheat.
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