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Cynthetiq,
You're not obligated to like your family. You can't pick 'em, but you can pik how you choose to interact with them.
That said, I didn't vote in your poll; reason being, I'm not you. Just bear in mind, that a funeral isn't really about the dead, it's about the living. You obviously don't like your grandmother and you clearly have some issues with her that you'll need to work through. I'm not a therapist and I'm not even going to try to get into them. But if you don't feel you owe her any respect, then you don't owe her any respect.
But what about your uncle or your father or your cousins? Is there anybody there who would be let down by you not attending the funeral? That's not rhetoric, that's a serious question and the answer to that question will tell you whether or not you should go.
If you decide not to go, I'd recommend at least sending some sort of a letter. A phone call would be even better. Explain that you would really like to be there (and I reckon on some level you would, or this wouldn't be a tough decision) but unfortunately, you just don't have the time or the money. Offer your condolences to those attending as well. This woman destroyed your relationship with her. Don't let her destroy your relationship with other members of your family as well.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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