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ngdawg · 12-01-2005, 12:43 PM

I would say don't go. Your own father's feelings on the matter show it all. Had he been close to her, you'd go for him.
I have sort of the same scenario here, but with my mother's siblings. None have ever met my children, they did not come to celebrate my parents' 50th wedding anniversary, giving poor excuses at best and not once did any visit my mother during her 2 month hospital stay. Yet, a cousin gets married and I'm ostracized because I wouldn't go to the wedding. I didn't know the girl-why would I go? My father said I was the topic of the evening-the only one who was practical enough to stay the hell home, they all said what a shame I didn't go....yea, right, one less gift.
Don't feel guilty about it, either. You tried when she was alive, nothing of value transpired so walk away knowing you gave it your best shot and now it's your turn to live and live knowing you're a better person than she is.
I detect a small amount of jealousy in the matters of the cousins getting the attention. Cut that loose, it serves no purpose. Your grandmother was a flawed person who missed out on a lot of good because of her actions-that is not your cross to bear at all. Stay home, raise a shotglass and watch a funny movie.

12-01-2005, 12:43 PM	#29 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	I would say don't go. Your own father's feelings on the matter show it all. Had he been close to her, you'd go for him. I have sort of the same scenario here, but with my mother's siblings. None have ever met my children, they did not come to celebrate my parents' 50th wedding anniversary, giving poor excuses at best and not once did any visit my mother during her 2 month hospital stay. Yet, a cousin gets married and I'm ostracized because I wouldn't go to the wedding. I didn't know the girl-why would I go? My father said I was the topic of the evening-the only one who was practical enough to stay the hell home, they all said what a shame I didn't go....yea, right, one less gift. Don't feel guilty about it, either. You tried when she was alive, nothing of value transpired so walk away knowing you gave it your best shot and now it's your turn to live and live knowing you're a better person than she is. I detect a small amount of jealousy in the matters of the cousins getting the attention. Cut that loose, it serves no purpose. Your grandmother was a flawed person who missed out on a lot of good because of her actions-that is not your cross to bear at all. Stay home, raise a shotglass and watch a funny movie. __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.