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Stiltzkin · 12-01-2005, 08:40 AM

A few months ago my cousin's daughter died, and I didn't go to the funeral because I didn't even know that girl. I still don't even know her name. Should I have gone to pay my respects to her? Nah, I didn't even know her. Should I have gone to try to "comfort" my cousin? Nah, knowing myself I either would have said something stupid like "well, things happen you know. You have to move on," or I would have just stayed silent the whole time. Where's the comfort in that? It would have been completely pointless for me to go.

On the flip side, if I had kids, and one of them died, I would be annoyed if people started showing up to the funeral that didn't even know my kid, even if those people are family members. It would seem incredibly hypocritical to me, and would probably make me feel worse.

12-01-2005, 08:40 AM	#22 (permalink)
Stiltzkin Junkie	A few months ago my cousin's daughter died, and I didn't go to the funeral because I didn't even know that girl. I still don't even know her name. Should I have gone to pay my respects to her? Nah, I didn't even know her. Should I have gone to try to "comfort" my cousin? Nah, knowing myself I either would have said something stupid like "well, things happen you know. You have to move on," or I would have just stayed silent the whole time. Where's the comfort in that? It would have been completely pointless for me to go. On the flip side, if I had kids, and one of them died, I would be annoyed if people started showing up to the funeral that didn't even know my kid, even if those people are family members. It would seem incredibly hypocritical to me, and would probably make me feel worse. Last edited by Stiltzkin; 12-01-2005 at 08:42 AM..