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Cynthetiq · 12-01-2005, 07:41 AM

thanks for all your input.

To help add some clarity:

She's in Palo Alto, CA and I believe will be buried there. For some reason the call came from my uncle in the Philippines before my aunts in CA.

My father didn't call me because he's more estranged from her than I am. He doesn't get involved in the daily dramas of her. He specifically requested to not get any trivial information about her unless there's something really bad. He didn't get any of the The last time she "almost died" was about 10 years ago and I took leave from work to be by her bedside and show my support with the rest of the family.

The rest of the supporting family (7 bros and sis, incl my father) I have little interest or familial relationships. My genealogical project is something I'm doing as a historian more than a way to be closer to the family. They are only people I tend to see during times of crisis like these. Normal comings and goings I don't hear from them. There are a few who even live in NYC and we don't ever get together and that's quite okay by me.

The umbrage I carry isn't a burden. It doesn't come up in any conversations or my daily life. I rarely think about it. I've given the woman many chances in her life to build a relationship with me on our own terms but she's not ever bothered like she does with the other grandchildren.

To address the difference of difference of grandchildren relationships, on several occassions that my father has tried to reach out to his mother giving her money to buy things that she needs, she spent the money on her grandchildren. Did my sister or I even get a Hallmark card? Nope. She bought and gave things to all the other grandchildren that she regularly gave things except for the two of us. It didn't happen just once, but twice.

12-01-2005, 07:41 AM	#16 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	thanks for all your input. To help add some clarity: She's in Palo Alto, CA and I believe will be buried there. For some reason the call came from my uncle in the Philippines before my aunts in CA. My father didn't call me because he's more estranged from her than I am. He doesn't get involved in the daily dramas of her. He specifically requested to not get any trivial information about her unless there's something really bad. He didn't get any of the The last time she "almost died" was about 10 years ago and I took leave from work to be by her bedside and show my support with the rest of the family. The rest of the supporting family (7 bros and sis, incl my father) I have little interest or familial relationships. My genealogical project is something I'm doing as a historian more than a way to be closer to the family. They are only people I tend to see during times of crisis like these. Normal comings and goings I don't hear from them. There are a few who even live in NYC and we don't ever get together and that's quite okay by me. The umbrage I carry isn't a burden. It doesn't come up in any conversations or my daily life. I rarely think about it. I've given the woman many chances in her life to build a relationship with me on our own terms but she's not ever bothered like she does with the other grandchildren. To address the difference of difference of grandchildren relationships, on several occassions that my father has tried to reach out to his mother giving her money to buy things that she needs, she spent the money on her grandchildren. Did my sister or I even get a Hallmark card? Nope. She bought and gave things to all the other grandchildren that she regularly gave things except for the two of us. It didn't happen just once, but twice. __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!