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Originally Posted by match000
Umm, we've hung out in group events one or two times, as part of this club we're both in. We've gone out once formally when I invited her to a show on campus, a few times just informally grabbing dinner after class (I hope these count too!).
Yesterday night I just randomly asked her to go grab a [non-alcohlic] drink, and she agreed and we had a good fun talk for an hour or so then I cut it short  |
When I read this, I thought: "Damn he's lost it." I think your mistake here has been to not give her a clear signal of interest early enough. Like you said, you did not really invite her clearly on a date. You either "informally grabbed diner" or "randomly asked". You should have shown more determination, I think. Make it clear that you see her as more than friend material.
If I was a girl, and some guy just "randomly" invited me, I don't know if I could see him as more than friend material. I'd want to go out with a confident and determined man. Hence, the confusion she showed. Plus keep in mind Girls are 1000 times more perceptive when it comes to dating. So my guess is:
1) She sensed your interest
2) but you didn't show your intentions clearly
That comes out as non assertive enough.
Sometimes it's good to put yourself in the girl's shoes too.
I hope it's not too awkward to see her in the club. Anyways, there are plenty of girls out there. Good luck.