Hi Mantus,
Thanks for taking time to write your thoughtful reply as well.
I agree generally with alot of what you are saying: don't put her on the pedestal, don't need to fall over and pay for *everything* (like a push-over), and don't become her 'emotional tampon'. I've read that this 'friends zone' with girls happens alot. And this is what your warning of.
However, like I said above, I don't really think this girl is the type conciously or subconciously looking for an 'emotional tampon'. One of the 'signals' I got before was quite, umm, kinky.
I also agree with the danger of 'tunnel-vision'; however, I think that if she shows so much interest in me, it would only be logical and fair of me to respond back with just as much, if not more. Well, I haven't given the update yet, which I will below.
I also find that the sexual chemistry idea that you talk about makes alot of sense. There definitely needs to be that chemistry there, not just friendship and making casual banter. And I think Martian also alluded to this chemistry, such as buying the roses to spark more than just friendship.
Although, right now I don't want to come off too strong, after such a major fuck-up. Once I slowly rebuild the relationship to a high-trust level, I think I can afford to be more 'sexually flirty', but I think doing that now would just alienate her more, like Martian said: I'm walking a very fine line.
Thanks for your help!
Best,
Match
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