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All kids have the job of exporing their boundries, and part of that is to rebel against authority, yes, I use to get BISS from my folks and I swore never to use it. Well, I do, but I understand why. Our most recent exchange with my now 12 year old daughter (today is her birthday)
Last Friday Night:
Me: It's 11, you need to get in bed (this is her known weekend bedtime)
Her: Why?
Me: Cause it's your bedtime
Her: Are you guys staying up?
Me: Yes, we're going to watch a movie
Her: Why can't I stay up since you guys are?
Me: BISS, now get in bed...
She KNOWS that its her bedtime, she is just prodding for a weak moment and hoping that we will let her stay up later, she needs no explanation of why she must go to bed at 11, she knows as it's been explained many times in the past (she'll sleep half the day if she goes to bed any later).
As for it just being used, cause the parent is to lazy to come up with a good excuse, that's a crock....
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