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Originally Posted by chriswin8
Something has transpired (See below) and I was made the legal guardian of 2 little girls. A 2 year old and a 4 year old neither of them are mine. Um what do I do now?
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Smile, you have one of the greatest opportunities a person can have. You have the opportunity to raise 2 wonderful people who will benifit society.
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Originally Posted by chriswin8
My ex-fiance had 2 kids. And sence we where going to be wed she had papers drawn up that if something happend I would get the kids. A week before the wedding I walked in on her and some guy. keep in mind I had taken her back once already for cheating. This time I was not about to take her back and kicked her out of my house and kept the girls till she found a place. A month after she took the kids to her apartment She had a breakdown.
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Sounds as if they'll be a heck of a lot better off with you than her. Shame on her for cheating.
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Originally Posted by chriswin8
Here is the problem I was there when the 2 year old was born and helped take raise the 4 year old, I love both of them as if they where my own. The mother lost the kids in the CPS battle. CPS contacted me and asked me if I would take them. Now here where the choices. Have them go into the system and be split up in fauster care and be adopted, or just take them myself. And they needed an answer right then and there they had a family ready to adopt the 2 year old.
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Please take them if you possibly can. CPS is a frightening system with terrible problems, despite good intentions.
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Originally Posted by chriswin8
I decided to take them (yeah like i would let them go into the system and be split up), how ever I have no clue what i am really doing. It was a diffrent story when I was going to have someone to tag team with. I could have the kids for 3 months or the rest of my life, that all depends on the ex.
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Good choice. No parent has a clue right off the bat. I spent almost 8 years of my life trying to train myslef to be a father, and I still have no idea what I'm doing. The first thing you should do is make sure you have thre best intentions. Intend to raise them right. Intend to make sure they grow up smart and savy in the ways of the world. Make sure they are moral and ethical. If you're religious, you might consider raising them religious, aswell. Do the best you can.
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Originally Posted by chriswin8
Now that I have had time to reflect on my answer to CPS, I am starting to freak out. I mean CPS is dropping the girls off sometime tomarrow. Its not the meterial things. I have a Stable job, a house, money is not a problem.
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You can do this. Breath slowly.
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Originally Posted by chriswin8
Its more of a question of am:
I ready for something like this?
If i am how do i know?
If I am not, is there a way to back out of this?
If i do Back out will i ever forgive myself?
Is this normal for me to be freaking out, like this?
I could use some advice, input, or anything that anyone is willing to share with me.
Should I take the mother back again?
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I think you're as ready as anyone ever is. It is 110% normal to freak out a bit over this. Most people have 9 months or more to come to terms. I don't suggest backing out unless a better situation comes up for the kids (which seems unlikely as of right now). You can do this.
