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JustJess · 11-28-2005, 01:36 PM

1. Wow. Just wow.
2. Of course it's normal to freak out. This is heavy shit.
3. You will never know if you're ready. You just keep doing it and suddenly things tend to be okay.
4. You did the right thing - it's not the kids' fault the mom is um, not useful. Much better for them to be with you - you care for them, they know you, etc.
5. Try to get them settled in as much as possible - give a sense of stability and normalcy if you can.
6. DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER WITH HER UNLESS IT IS A HEALTHY HAPPY THING FOR YOU TO DO.
7. Worry about forever when you get a better sense of whether or not she's ever going to have her shit together. At that point, you'll be more likely to know if this is something you can do, want to do, etc.

11-28-2005, 01:36 PM	#2 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	1. Wow. Just wow. 2. Of course it's normal to freak out. This is heavy shit. 3. You will never know if you're ready. You just keep doing it and suddenly things tend to be okay. 4. You did the right thing - it's not the kids' fault the mom is um, not useful. Much better for them to be with you - you care for them, they know you, etc. 5. Try to get them settled in as much as possible - give a sense of stability and normalcy if you can. 6. DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER WITH HER UNLESS IT IS A HEALTHY HAPPY THING FOR YOU TO DO. 7. Worry about forever when you get a better sense of whether or not she's ever going to have her shit together. At that point, you'll be more likely to know if this is something you can do, want to do, etc. __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.