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Originally Posted by Gilda
I think I'll just go with not bringing it up again.
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I don't think it is a matter of not bringing it up at all rather it is waiting for the right time to talk about it. If you are in a room of stuffy Lit Professors who sound more like Charlie Brown's teach than people having a real conversation then you should probably hold back and/or talk like Charlie Brown's teacher yourself.
But if my experience at University taught me anything, there are profs that enjoy their pop culture... you will find them eventually.
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Originally Posted by Gilda
So how do I tell the difference between when a guy is trying to get in my pants and when it's harmless flirtation? My experience, which admittedly was mostly as an undergraduate with frat guys, was that they always wanted to sleep with me. I don't want to be a cock tease or get the kind of reputation I had in college.
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There is a difference between frat boys looking to get laid and adults who are flirtatious. The main one being that they are professionals who have reputation of their own to keep. Crossing that line between playful flirtation and making a pass just doesn't get crossed without being damn sure that the flirtation is mutual and there is a desire to pursue... as I said, 9.5/10 there isn't a will to pursue.
The other big difference is that you have made if very clear you are married and a lesbian. Knowing this means they won't cross the line either... Though, it could also mean that more people will in fact flirt as the stakes are *very* low that they will have to follow through on anything.
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Originally Posted by Gilda
Thank you! I will definitely be careful to avoid being alone with these guys at school. And I'll be careful to dress more conservatively next time.
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Honestly, I don't think you need to worry about them unless they actually make a pass at you. Some of them could develop into good friends and/or colleagues.