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Martian · 11-26-2005, 10:40 PM

I'm trying very hard not to take the bat to the horse.. those legs stopped kicking a while ago. Anyway..

First off, to stop beating around the bush and be perfectly blunt, the fact that you didn't ejaculate during sex does not in any way mean that you could not have gotten her pregnant. pre-ejaculate contains sperm and may start to excrete within seconds of your getting an erection, depending on how excited and how predisposed you are. If you don't have a condom, don't have sex. Jerk each other off, 69, do what you have to do, but do not have sex. Bottom line.

Also, she should be on birth control in addition to you wearing a condom. Neither method is foolproof but with the two combined you will get as close to 100% protection as is possible. She can get a birth control prescription from your doctor without her parents knowing if you're concerned about them and may even be able to fill it depending on her pharmacy and insurance. Doctors and pharmacists both understand the issues at hand and would rather teens use protection without parental consent than have sex without it.

And finally, you need to do some serious soul searching. I have sex with my girlfriend because I'm prepared for the consequences. We know we're both clean and we're ready to deal with a baby if that eventuality comes to pass. It'll make life harder and it's definitely not the best option but we're prepared, because we've discussed it. It's unlikely but it is possible, so we acknowledge that and have figured out what we'll do. This is something everyone who has sex should do; if you're not able to deal with a kid, don't have intercourse. There are plenty of other ways to get each other off with little to no risk, so there's no reason to jump to that if you can't cope with what might come of it.

11-26-2005, 10:40 PM	#40 (permalink)
Martian Young Crumudgeon Location: Canada	I'm trying very hard not to take the bat to the horse.. those legs stopped kicking a while ago. Anyway.. First off, to stop beating around the bush and be perfectly blunt, the fact that you didn't ejaculate during sex does not in any way mean that you could not have gotten her pregnant. pre-ejaculate contains sperm and may start to excrete within seconds of your getting an erection, depending on how excited and how predisposed you are. If you don't have a condom, don't have sex. Jerk each other off, 69, do what you have to do, but do not have sex. Bottom line. Also, she should be on birth control in addition to you wearing a condom. Neither method is foolproof but with the two combined you will get as close to 100% protection as is possible. She can get a birth control prescription from your doctor without her parents knowing if you're concerned about them and may even be able to fill it depending on her pharmacy and insurance. Doctors and pharmacists both understand the issues at hand and would rather teens use protection without parental consent than have sex without it. And finally, you need to do some serious soul searching. I have sex with my girlfriend because I'm prepared for the consequences. We know we're both clean and we're ready to deal with a baby if that eventuality comes to pass. It'll make life harder and it's definitely not the best option but we're prepared, because we've discussed it. It's unlikely but it is possible, so we acknowledge that and have figured out what we'll do. This is something everyone who has sex should do; if you're not able to deal with a kid, don't have intercourse. There are plenty of other ways to get each other off with little to no risk, so there's no reason to jump to that if you can't cope with what might come of it. __________________ I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said - Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame