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Toaster126 · 11-26-2005, 01:42 PM

I have to say I have mixed feelings about supporting interracial dating by people who look differently (i.e. skin color) because of all of the burden on their children. It pains me to say that because of my own half white half black ethnicity. I just think some people can't handle it, and that is a part of human nature. People want and need to label people, and mixed races confuse things. I think it is something you have to prepare for if you want to enter a relationship with someone who doesn't look like you, but it hopefully won't stop you.

Personally I get flak on both sides of the fence. White people often think of me as their "black friend", while black people don't realize I'm mixed and think I'm a sell out or trying to be white. You don't ever fit in anywhere. Even in family situations I don't fit in. I've been called unflattering slurs by relatives. That's frustrating when I'm only trying to be myself, but I think that is one of the reasons I ended up being so confident in myself and able to do what I want without shame or regard to what others might judge.

Every relationship I've had has technically been a "bi-racial" relationship. None of the girls had a problem with it; it was always the parents and family. I've been shot down because "blacks beat their wives" or other such nonsense. No one cares what your racial stock is anyways - these people just care what you look like.

I do think racism will become less overt as time goes by. Children will grow up raised by racist parents who are less and less outspoken about it, so they will oftentimes become less racist than their parents.

I think we'd be better off if we all just learned to judge people on a case-by-case basis, but I think we aren't made to work like that. It's something to strive for, though.

11-26-2005, 01:42 PM	#52 (permalink)
Toaster126 Extreme moderation Location: Kansas City, yo.	I have to say I have mixed feelings about supporting interracial dating by people who look differently (i.e. skin color) because of all of the burden on their children. It pains me to say that because of my own half white half black ethnicity. I just think some people can't handle it, and that is a part of human nature. People want and need to label people, and mixed races confuse things. I think it is something you have to prepare for if you want to enter a relationship with someone who doesn't look like you, but it hopefully won't stop you. Personally I get flak on both sides of the fence. White people often think of me as their "black friend", while black people don't realize I'm mixed and think I'm a sell out or trying to be white. You don't ever fit in anywhere. Even in family situations I don't fit in. I've been called unflattering slurs by relatives. That's frustrating when I'm only trying to be myself, but I think that is one of the reasons I ended up being so confident in myself and able to do what I want without shame or regard to what others might judge. Every relationship I've had has technically been a "bi-racial" relationship. None of the girls had a problem with it; it was always the parents and family. I've been shot down because "blacks beat their wives" or other such nonsense. No one cares what your racial stock is anyways - these people just care what you look like. I do think racism will become less overt as time goes by. Children will grow up raised by racist parents who are less and less outspoken about it, so they will oftentimes become less racist than their parents. I think we'd be better off if we all just learned to judge people on a case-by-case basis, but I think we aren't made to work like that. It's something to strive for, though. __________________ "The question isn't who is going to let me, it's who is going to stop me." (Ayn Rand) "The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers." (M. Scott Peck) Last edited by Toaster126; 11-26-2005 at 01:46 PM..