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Originally Posted by Gilda
I just wanted to point out that in my previous response, I wasn't arguing with you, I was just surprised that it could actually be as simple as "She seems nice, let's be friends." I've never had a relationship that worked that way.
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Yeah, I read it that way. No worries.
You know, all these "rules" and "scripts" might seem like they keep you safe, but they're actually they're what keep you afraid. Like, if you know all the rules, understand the script
and everything goes according to the rules and scripts, then you'll survive the interaction, and if not, you'll literally, physically die.
Maybe there ARE no rules or scripts for social interactions. Maybe there are fluid, mutable contexts, but inside that there ARE no limitations or fixed expectations for how people are to interact. Maybe interactions work best when people just dance with what's occurring in them.