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Originally Posted by JinnKai
What if he never explained it in the first place? I think its hasty to assume that the explanation was forthcoming the first time, and not "BISS." It's also selfish to assume as the user of BISS that they still REMEMBER your reason.
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Of course an explaination should be provided first. BISS shouldn't be used if you are to lazy to provide a reason. However, you really should be capable of remembering why the dishes need to be cleaned.
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Originally Posted by JinnKai
Aha! And this is where the resentment, as a child.. came from. It's offered as an authority that I should listen to because I just *should*, but its really not an authority. They chose to bring me into this world, just like they choose to give me shelter and food. It's giving a gift and then demanding recompetence. If I'd felt like my food and shelter were an actual barter deal, and they wouldn't be there if I didn't do my chores, then I could see it. But if you're just giving me food and shelter for free for 10 years and then you suddenly expect me to do your dishes now? Fuck you!
(edit: not fuck you, Charlatan, fuck you.. metaphorical father... in this example... |
As we say in my house, this is *our* house and you (my son) are part of the group of people who live in this house. As a member of this house you have certain responsibilities (his are keeping his room and the basement clean, clearing the breakfast and dinner dishes, etc.). I have responsibilities like paying the mortgage and buying the groceries.
If he doesn't want to be a part of our house he can find another house to live in.
Consider the first 10 years a freebie. Now you have to start paying, in sweat (sorry Fame reference... Debbie Allen eat your heart out!).