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Originally Posted by Poppinjay
His producer basically had to "take care of him."
It sounds to me like that is Grace's role in your life.
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That's one of them. It's mostly about loving each other, but her providing me physical, social, and emotional support is an important functional part of our relationship, true. It's part of it that works well for both of us.
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You can accept it, and that's fine. Or if you want more out of the situations you find yourself in when you're alone, you can work to change it. Your success in life doesn't hang on introversion, but shyness is a barrier.
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You present it as an either or situation. I don't think it is. There are two independent situations here. When I'm with Grace, there is no problem. I suppose I could learn to be more independent of her, but I absolutely don't want to do that. I don't want to grow apart from her, not even a little bit.
It's only when I'm out alone that my being shy sometimes causes problems, so that's the part of the equation that I need to work on. Either accept that I don't do well alone and avoid such situations, or work to change it. I still don't know which would be the better choice.
Gilda