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iblade,
I certainly think that a virgin can not only "play" or "pretend" to be cool and confident, but actually can be.
For me, I think I've actually lost a little bit of confidence after losing my virginity (at age 21), primarily, I think, because of the insecurities that developed because my girlfriend was not. However, a year or so before losing my virginity, when I was just a single guy, I was extremely confident -- more confident around women than I had almost ever. Can women sense confidence? Sure they can. Just like a guy can sense it in a girl. Do you need sex to do this? I would submit not. And if you feel you do, then your priorities might be a little misplaced -- better to figure out how to be confident youself without relying on losing your virginity to do so.
If you think I was just "pretending" to be confident when I was a virgin, tell me; I'd be curious to hear why you think that. And if you think I was an exception to the rule, I'd like to know that too, and why. Just curious why you're intent on making generalizations -- I mean, maybe for you that's how it was, but for plenty of other people, I'm sure it wasn't the case.
Sim
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