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Originally Posted by lampajoo
God, what horrible advice these "yes" people gave! as to the conclusion: just because doing something dumb doesn't result in misfortune doesn't mean it's not dumb. If you've got an awful secret like this and it's, as others have said, no longer an active issue then why would you tell someone? You're telling them because YOU want to feel better about what you did. You're taking it out on them. Just because an act, such as this, is self-sabotaging doesn't mean it's selfless. Be a man and keep your secrets to yourself.
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Wow. You forget that your past can have reprocussions on others, too. He didn't want to tell her to lift a weight off his shoulders. He wanted to tell her so that she would know up front that she was dating something that she had grown to hate- not that he would ever do it again, of course! I think that he was more of a MAN for being honest and saving both of them some possible heartache in the future. This was not a situation of a vegan finding out that her significant enjoys a rare steak every now and then.
I hope the above quoted poster never gets into a situation like this.
I think that you were very mature and very brave to be honest with her. After all, it is what you would want if in the other position. It should show her that you are a great guy and have come a long way from past transgressions. By being honest with her about this, she knows that you are trustworthy and fully understand the consequences of your past and have come to grips with it. Glad to see that it worked out, too. Please don't listen to lampajoo. You treated this like any MAN with respect for another should.
In some cases, I do think that "what you don't know can't hurt you." But in this case, I think you made the right decision. Not everything needs to be revealed. But I think it is better that this was.