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Originally Posted by tooth
Just be honest, and maybe a little persistent. She's stonewalling you because she's probably still pissed at you. Make it very clear to her that you intend to escort her to her sister's wedding, of your own free will.
Oh, and buy her some flowers.
The sooner the better.
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Several things... Having been married now for 12 years, and been through the situation you are going through several times both prior to marriage and while married: give her space, love her unconditionally, and make her feel like she's a queen (gifts, back rubs, etc). Don't apply pressure - except to initiate/enjoy deep conversation. Applying any pressure will ONLY blow up in your face.
And if she's looking elsewhere (screwing around), there's really nothing you can do. Just pray to God you find out about it, and either work it out together ASAP, or move on before you are used too long as a cruch/last resort.
Unconditional love is an extremely difficult thing.
One thing I notice in the thread is most of the guys have assumed she's cheating on you - I've done the same thing with previous GFs and with my wife. Part of my problem with not questioning what's going on when my wife's behavior changes has been that several of these times, my SO has been cheating on me, and thus my irrational fear that whenever anything changes in our relationship, something is going on.
Not many answers here, but just an understanding of the situation. Deep emotional relationships are NOT an easy thing, and take tons of work, love, and forgiveness.
Good luck!