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-Ever- · 11-09-2005, 09:24 AM

I've scheduled lunch with her after her morning job this afternoon. She knows I want to talk about the wedding in general.

I really don't want to sound like I'm begging for her to come back to me. I want to try to stress that since our separation I've given us a lot of thought and realized that I do consider her to be very special to me and that I now understand what I probably put her through by making a selfish, defensive decision about the wedding a few weeks back. I just know that she said the wedding isn't everything and that the rest of "what's going on" is unexplainable, so hopefully she's been honest and my apologies will address these unknown emotions. I just hope she indeed has been honest. If not and if she has been having desires to see other people, I expect to somewhat crash and burn when we talk as she might just push me away..

Either way I'm going into it pretty headstrong. Do you suggest we do it over lunch, or should I take her to the beach, or for a walk...?

Any suggestions on what *not* to say as to not sound desperate?

Thanks again friends.

11-09-2005, 09:24 AM	#32 (permalink)
-Ever- Junkie Location: San Francisco	I've scheduled lunch with her after her morning job this afternoon. She knows I want to talk about the wedding in general. I really don't want to sound like I'm begging for her to come back to me. I want to try to stress that since our separation I've given us a lot of thought and realized that I do consider her to be very special to me and that I now understand what I probably put her through by making a selfish, defensive decision about the wedding a few weeks back. I just know that she said the wedding isn't everything and that the rest of "what's going on" is unexplainable, so hopefully she's been honest and my apologies will address these unknown emotions. I just hope she indeed has been honest. If not and if she has been having desires to see other people, I expect to somewhat crash and burn when we talk as she might just push me away.. Either way I'm going into it pretty headstrong. Do you suggest we do it over lunch, or should I take her to the beach, or for a walk...? Any suggestions on what not to say as to not sound desperate? Thanks again friends. __________________ Embracing the goddess energy within yourselves will bring all of you to a new understanding and valuing of life. A vision that inspires you to live and love on planet Earth. Like a priceless jewel buried in dark layers of soil and stone, Earth radiates her brilliant beauty into the caverns of space and time. Perhaps you are aware of those who watch over your home And experience of this place to visit and play with reality. You are becoming aware of yourself as a gamemaster... --Acknowledge your weaknesses--