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Sorceress · 11-09-2005, 02:10 AM

I have been going through this thread, and there have been three coherent suggestions made that I feel are key to the survival of your relationship. 1. Stress the need for clear, non-combative communication when she's ready for it, but stress also that her time table should be reasonable, as to when you can start talking.
2. Accept her need for space without making a fuss over it, because if you make too big a deal out of it, it will have the opposite effect.3. Go to the wedding, and apologize that you didn't find ascheduling solution sooner, telling her that if it's important to her, it's important to you.
If you can accomplish all of these things, you have a strong chance of surviving this hick-up in your relationship, if you are unable or willing or she is, then the relationship should end either way.
Best of luck, please let us know how it all turns out.
p.s. don't wait too long to tell her these things, give her a little space and then say, we need to talk every bit as much as you need space, so how about we meet in the middle?

11-09-2005, 02:10 AM	#30 (permalink)
Sorceress Upright	I have been going through this thread, and there have been three coherent suggestions made that I feel are key to the survival of your relationship. 1. Stress the need for clear, non-combative communication when she's ready for it, but stress also that her time table should be reasonable, as to when you can start talking. 2. Accept her need for space without making a fuss over it, because if you make too big a deal out of it, it will have the opposite effect.3. Go to the wedding, and apologize that you didn't find ascheduling solution sooner, telling her that if it's important to her, it's important to you. If you can accomplish all of these things, you have a strong chance of surviving this hick-up in your relationship, if you are unable or willing or she is, then the relationship should end either way. Best of luck, please let us know how it all turns out. p.s. don't wait too long to tell her these things, give her a little space and then say, we need to talk every bit as much as you need space, so how about we meet in the middle? __________________ Born of mist and dreams, chapters from an alternate mind. Last edited by Sorceress; 11-09-2005 at 02:15 AM..