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Eyes are very expressive. You can tell a lot about what the person is feeling and thinking by looking at their eyes, maybe on a subconscious level. If you don't feel comfortable enough with a person to look at them in the eyes then don't. You don't have to. And if you are finding it hard you obviously don't want to. What is more confident? Doing what *you* want to do (not look in their eyes) or looking in their eyes because you feel *they* expect you to?
I used to not like looking at the poeple in the eyes when I was a teenager, but as I grew more confident in myself and wasn't as fearful for other people to see who I am I have lost all fear about looking at people in the eyes. That is probably the problem, you are not comfortable with people seeing you that closely. Trying to force yourself to make eye contact isn't going to help, it will just frustrate you. Build up your confidence over time (please no quick fixes...) and you will be able to look people in the eyes. Confidence is something to worry about, eye contact will come automatically when you deal with the real issues.
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