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SirLance · 11-08-2005, 10:15 AM

So you have something in your past you're ashamed of and don't want to reveal to someone you might become romantically involved with?

There's a support group for that. It's called EVERYONE. We meet at the bar on Friday nights...

I think you want to tell her because you want to punish yourself. I think you don't want to tell her because you don't want the pain of losing her. Quite a quandary.

My advice: seek an expert opinion. Go to a counselor and get professional help making this decision. If you decide to tell her, make sure it's because you are doing it because it is the right thing to do, and not because you want to get beat up for the guilt you still obviously carry.

And, if you do decide to tell her, a counselor can help you find a way to do so that doesn't traumatize her, which I'd think would be pretty important to someone you care about.

By the way, my opionion: leave it in the past. It was a one time incident when you were 14. It will only harm her to tell her, and it will only make her believe that everyone who is nice to her is a molester.

11-08-2005, 10:15 AM	#62 (permalink)
SirLance Junkie Location: In the middle of the desert.	So you have something in your past you're ashamed of and don't want to reveal to someone you might become romantically involved with? There's a support group for that. It's called EVERYONE. We meet at the bar on Friday nights... I think you want to tell her because you want to punish yourself. I think you don't want to tell her because you don't want the pain of losing her. Quite a quandary. My advice: seek an expert opinion. Go to a counselor and get professional help making this decision. If you decide to tell her, make sure it's because you are doing it because it is the right thing to do, and not because you want to get beat up for the guilt you still obviously carry. And, if you do decide to tell her, a counselor can help you find a way to do so that doesn't traumatize her, which I'd think would be pretty important to someone you care about. By the way, my opionion: leave it in the past. It was a one time incident when you were 14. It will only harm her to tell her, and it will only make her believe that everyone who is nice to her is a molester. __________________ DEMOCRACY is where your vote counts, FEUDALISM is where your count votes.