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Cimarron29414 · 11-08-2005, 07:04 AM

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I hope that her acceptance is a way for you to find closure with this issue. One thing I did not get from your posts was whether your behavior was a single event or multiple occurrences.

When I was 15, I worked in a drug store. I stole a box of condoms from my job because I was too embarrassed to purchase them. Now, I am much older. When I interview with new companies, I do not tell them in the interview "Before you hire me, I think you should know about my past....." The fact is, I *was* a dumb kid that made a dumb mistake. I know it is wrong now, and I don't behave that way anymore. So, there is no use labeling myself a "thief" for the rest of my life.

Assuming that the answer to my first question is "only once," you do not have to label yourself "child molester" for life. Your debt was paid through this girl. You told her the truth, and she was very likely to place you in the same category as her ADULT stepfather. She didn't, so now you have to let it go.

Have you ever considered looking up the girl you touched and writing a letter of apology? You might not get forgiveness, but it might help her to know you acknowledge your mistake and feel deeply sorry for it. If you were to ever do this, you need to let someone else find her and give it to her. You definitely don't want to just mail it to her because it could do more harm than good, as if you were stalking her.

11-08-2005, 07:04 AM	#58 (permalink)
Cimarron29414 Still Free Location: comfortably perched at the top of the bell curve!	Cerebral I hope that her acceptance is a way for you to find closure with this issue. One thing I did not get from your posts was whether your behavior was a single event or multiple occurrences. When I was 15, I worked in a drug store. I stole a box of condoms from my job because I was too embarrassed to purchase them. Now, I am much older. When I interview with new companies, I do not tell them in the interview "Before you hire me, I think you should know about my past....." The fact is, I was a dumb kid that made a dumb mistake. I know it is wrong now, and I don't behave that way anymore. So, there is no use labeling myself a "thief" for the rest of my life. Assuming that the answer to my first question is "only once," you do not have to label yourself "child molester" for life. Your debt was paid through this girl. You told her the truth, and she was very likely to place you in the same category as her ADULT stepfather. She didn't, so now you have to let it go. Have you ever considered looking up the girl you touched and writing a letter of apology? You might not get forgiveness, but it might help her to know you acknowledge your mistake and feel deeply sorry for it. If you were to ever do this, you need to let someone else find her and give it to her. You definitely don't want to just mail it to her because it could do more harm than good, as if you were stalking her. __________________ Gives a man a halo, does mead. "Here lies The_Jazz: Killed by an ambitious, sparkly, pink butterfly." Last edited by Cimarron29414; 11-08-2005 at 07:10 AM..