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Originally Posted by ratbastid
All that said (whew) I'll join the communication bandwagon. Thing is, you can't demand communication from her. That never works. You've got to be in communication with her first--let her know about how bad your mind is working overtime here, and what that's like for you. Not like blaming her or dumping it on her, but being responsible for where you've gone with this. You watch, your honesty will draw out her honesty.
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hmm, see I'm just not sure "the talk" is the right thing here, cause it will probably have the same effect as cornering her and pressuring out things she's uncertain about. What you'll get is more of this:
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Originally Posted by -Ever-
I've gotten out of her that she says she needs personal space where she's not with me every time she has spare time, but in reality when I've asked her to come over she says things like "didn't we go over this? I need space." .
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You'll pressure (in a sweet and caring concerned boyfriend way) some response out of her, and end up winning the battle but loosing the war. That's my experience, but I'm not you and she's not my girl.
I'll hold to my advice of giving her space and being cool about it.