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Gilda · 11-05-2005, 05:35 PM

Being late once or twice may be circumstances beyond your control. Being chronically late is a lifestyle choice, is disrespectful to others, and is on some level even a little dishonest. I don't mean that people who are chroncally late lie about everything, but if you know that you are habitually late and continue to agree to meet people at a specific time, then you are being deceptive on some level.

What I don't get is how a person can be consistently late if it isn't by conscious choice. Being on time is easy. If, say, we need to meet friends at the movie theater for an 8:00 movie, it's a pretty simple calculation to figure out when to start getting ready. Let's see, 20 minutes to get to the theater, 45 minutes to get dressed add in a couple of minutes for parking and walking to and from the car, and you've got 70 minutes. Add in a 5 minute cusion for unexpected delays, and you're starting to get ready at 6:45 at the latest.

Even better is the prepare before doing other things strategy. Let's say the afternoon involves playing videogames, getting ready to go out, and meeting for the movie. Get ready to go out first, then play the video games once you're dressed, and you've eliminated the possibility of running over on the game and shorting yourself on time to get dressed.

If you know you have a problem, you should make that cushion even bigger. I know that it's going to take me roughly an hour and 15 minutes to get ready to go someplace nice, so I begin to get ready an hour and 30 minutes before I need to be ready. Once I'm ready, I can kill the extra time I have by coming here, reading a comic book, listening to my Ipod, etc.

Really, being on time takes such a small amount of effort, both in planning and in execution that I can't really grasp how it becomes a habit if it isn't a deliberate choice to be rude.

My chief experience with appointments for social functions is with my comics group and the guys all tended to be right on time, within five minutes before we were set to begin.

Gilda

11-05-2005, 05:35 PM	#34 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	Being late once or twice may be circumstances beyond your control. Being chronically late is a lifestyle choice, is disrespectful to others, and is on some level even a little dishonest. I don't mean that people who are chroncally late lie about everything, but if you know that you are habitually late and continue to agree to meet people at a specific time, then you are being deceptive on some level. What I don't get is how a person can be consistently late if it isn't by conscious choice. Being on time is easy. If, say, we need to meet friends at the movie theater for an 8:00 movie, it's a pretty simple calculation to figure out when to start getting ready. Let's see, 20 minutes to get to the theater, 45 minutes to get dressed add in a couple of minutes for parking and walking to and from the car, and you've got 70 minutes. Add in a 5 minute cusion for unexpected delays, and you're starting to get ready at 6:45 at the latest. Even better is the prepare before doing other things strategy. Let's say the afternoon involves playing videogames, getting ready to go out, and meeting for the movie. Get ready to go out first, then play the video games once you're dressed, and you've eliminated the possibility of running over on the game and shorting yourself on time to get dressed. If you know you have a problem, you should make that cushion even bigger. I know that it's going to take me roughly an hour and 15 minutes to get ready to go someplace nice, so I begin to get ready an hour and 30 minutes before I need to be ready. Once I'm ready, I can kill the extra time I have by coming here, reading a comic book, listening to my Ipod, etc. Really, being on time takes such a small amount of effort, both in planning and in execution that I can't really grasp how it becomes a habit if it isn't a deliberate choice to be rude. My chief experience with appointments for social functions is with my comics group and the guys all tended to be right on time, within five minutes before we were set to begin. Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert