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Gilda,
Thankyou for some insight into conflict avoidance/introversion.
Peeps often get defensive when a friend is targeted. This why soo many peeps wanted you to kick his ass. Not just to punish him, but to express thier anger at thier own inability to protect you. Thier anger at him translates into affection for you.
Also, NO ONE can immunize you from further trouble. While on the one hand i see what you are saying about division of labor, the stove will not burn the house down if Gracie is in front of it, and you step away for a moment, whereas creeps might try for you as soon as your protector is out of sight. I still think you should try to find a way to fend for yourself, or not take it sooo personal when 'they' step out of line. (My sister in law got fondled pretty much all the way through europe, but she NEVER once shed a tear over it! I'm sure it was frustrating, but just the same.)
I guess what i am trying to say is why does it impact you so strongly? Because of your history i can see where it comes from, but maybe you should be getting counseling for that stuff. (If you are not already.)
I feel like this might be a little forward, though. Sorry about that.
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