Leto, first of all, I liked your story about your wife.
Now for responding to something else you said...
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Originally Posted by Leto
it seems that opportunity and mutual attraction was more of a motivator than specific 'types'.
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Well stated. Perhaps because I am the product of two people from very different cultures (immigrants), I am more interested in people from different cultures than my own... I mean, I'm an anthropologist, for god's sake. But just because I happened to run into a really kind, good-looking, intelligent guy in graduate school and he happened to be Arab, doesn't mean that I am into the "exotic" look and want to "break the mold" (especially since my own parents already broke their molds). It just means that we hit it off.
We often hypothesize that one of the reasons we hit it off was because he comes from a Muslim/Christian family (rare combo, esp in Lebanon), and I come from a Thai/Icelandic family (rare combo, esp in America), that we were drawn to how far out of our respective "molds" each of us were... the openness factor, I guess. Does that mean we are "exotic" to each other?... I don't think so. I just think we are pretty unique individuals, and the chances of meeting someone else like each of us, is pretty slim. And we happen to be attracted to each other.
Of course, the fact that I AM an anthropologist means that I love the added "bonus" of getting to check out his country and culture... but that was certainly not a motivating factor. If he was some suburban American white boy who happened to be kind, good-looking, intelligent, with lots of international experience and knowledge... well, I'd have fallen for him all the same. Chances are, though, that finding a suburban American white boy with that kind of cosmopolitanism would be pretty tough (sorry, guys). I gave it a try before, and got bored!!