I hate....hate to sound like an asshole because you seem like a nice enough fellow...
If it were me, and it's not, but if it were, I'd probably just end things and leave it at that.
That whole area of 'I love you, but...' just leaves a very bad taste in my mouth. This particularly reeks of convenience and selfishness. Look, I don't know you or your girlfriend from Adam and Eve, but it seems to me from what I've read that your relationship from her perspective just isn't 'convenient' any more. She still loves you, but she needs someone closer to home. She still loves and wants to see other guys, but she still wants to talk a couple of times a week and e-mail you every other day. She still loves you, but not enough to keep herself away from this other fellow she has feelings for. She still loves you...you're just not 'convenient' right now.
Of course she's amazed at your 'understanding' nature. She gets to have her cake and eat it too...with your blessing even. Relationships are hard. They require work, communication, compromise and sacrifice. It doesn't mean they get carte blanche to walk all over you when things aren't to their liking.
I hated writing that, believe it or not. I just hate reading stories like this more. Like I said, you seem like a nice enough guy and I hate to see nice folks get jerked around like this.
Maybe it's because I've been there before. Maybe I'm just a natural born cynic, but that's my advice and my reasoning. Take it for what you will, after all, in the end, I'm just some guy on the internet, eh?
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