Originally Posted by maleficent

I'm not a big beleiver in marriage... and it's not monogamy that I don't beleive in... I think if two people want to spend the rest of their lives together, that's great, and it's a wonderful thing... that committment comes from the heart and not from a piece of paper and prancing downthe aisle in a white dress.

If I were to meet "prince charming" and decide that I did want to prance, I wouldn't have a problem with doing the asking... Women of a certain age have it drummed into us by our mothers that we can be whatever we want and we can do whatever we want. Why should that stop at proposing marriage?

Girlfriends will tell you that if you aren't being satisfied sexually, to ask for what you want, but most girlfriends will tell you that ou have to wait on pins and needles for him to ask you to marry him... I don't get it. I'm not sure why it's OK for a woman to tell a man to go a little to the left and harder harder oh baby harder... but it violates every rule of etiquette to say, Sweetheart, I love you and want us to spend the rest of our lives together and file our tax returns jointly..