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Originally Posted by maleficent
Why does there have to be a ring? It's always seemed to be that the engagement ring -- especially some of the 2 carat honkers I've seen, were bribes...  For some guys, just give him a plasma television and a case of really good beer.. |
The beer doesn't have to be great, and you can put the TV over there.
I never felt any pressure to propose. I figured it was the better of two things - I would never have a live-in SO if I weren't married. I'm not a moralist, but I REALLY liked being on my own, shutting off the world at 5pm, unanswerable to anybody. My SO spent all of three nights at my place the entire time we dated. No teefbrush in the cabinet. No scenty shampoo in the shower.
And yet, there was this drive to start working towards the best possible future together which over rode that desire for having my own cave. Ergo, marriage was the thing to make that start.
As for the engagement period, I planned to be an up to date groom and help with the planning of our small wedding and brief honeymoon. After the freight train ran me over like Wile E. Coyote, we ended up with "only" 96 guests (because of the terrorist attacks occured 4 days earlier - no transportation for most guests).
I bought a book on what the groom can do during the engagement. It was bullshit. If I were to re-write it for a newly engaged guy, it would have one page.
"Stop this."
"Put me down."
"Walk out of the bookstore."
"Don't even think about it."
"Say, 'I do' when everybody looks at you."