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i think women dont propose that often is fear of scaring the guy away. Granted, i know they should instead first ask what their opinion is on marriage, but no less, sometimes i wonder if guys will say they are the marrying type just to keep the girl around. not to say its lying, but there exists relief in knowing there is that need to settle down as much as it tends to exist in women (usually more so).
Its difficult both ways. When youre married, youre married. There seems to be a sense of finality associated with marriage, and i think that is what women find comfort in. it helps them believe it is long term and not going to change. Socially it is comforting (i think, from what ive seen) to know you have that ring and you both said "i do, forever" and people acknowledge and accept that better than people living together. SOmetimes it comes off as a weakness in the commitment if there is no final commitment.
Comfortable couples deal with both sides too. They have more freedom (or socially it is believed to be) and they dont have messy paperwork. They are missing out on benefits such as being on each other's insurance plans, but that isnt relative to this.
Anyways, i dont see any problem or reason not to propose as a women. However, finding the courage would be difficult. And if a woman proposes to a man, do we give them a ring? I dont know how that works....
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