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scottkuma's got the right idea - if all else fails just beat the meat. All the satisfaction of sex, none of the complaints about a headache!
Seriously, sit her down and have a frank discussion with her. Explain to her that you need more sex than you're getting and tell her that you may need to take matters into your own hands if she's not able to provide the amount of sex you need. It's very rare for two people to meet who have exactly the same sex drive and even if they do that can change. It's perfectly normal for individuals in a commited relationship to masturbate regularly and a much better solution than parking the car in another garage. As has been said, even on the chance that she says she's okay with it she's probably not and it will come back to haunt you. Think about her self esteem; if you feel the need to have sex with someone else, what does that say about her and how attractive you find her? I know and you know that isn't the motivation, but that's how she'll see it.
All that said and being the worst case scenario, there's every possibility that she just needs the romance rekindled. Send the kids over to an aunt's house for the night and pull out all the stops; candle-lit dinner, horse-drawn carriage, maybe a bed and breakfast. Hell, rent a cheap motel room, go in seperate cars and 'hook up', that can be very exciting. Whatever you think she'll go for, do it and you'll likely see her desire rekindled.
Women and men both experience a decrease in sex drive as they get older. As you have been together for 25 years I have to assume you're in your forties, it's not uncommon at that age for things to dwindle a bit. The best answer is for you to make her want it. Seduce her; as to the best method, you know her best and what will get her fire going, I'm sure you can come up with something.
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