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Ah, I've had this happen to me numerous times in the past. From the way you speak I can tell that you're a pretty easy going nice guy (not that it's a bad thing), which acting accordingly, will lead to situations like this. I say this because I'm the same way. These situations usually arise for two reasons:
1) You come off as a friend at first to the girl until you finally muster up enough courage to make a move, which the girl will like and usually accept because she thinks you're nice. The next day she'll still like you but think it was too quick of a transition from going from "friend" to "boyfriend material" over such a short span of time. Unless you confront her and ask her about her feelings in person (don't use computer or phone) she'll start to grow distant and not show any love for you.
2) She's a shy somewhat prude girl and always wants the guy to make the first move. Once you make a move on her she'll accept as described in scenario one but this time she'll regret leading you on like that. Because she is afraid of telling you how she feels about the situation she'll avoid you because she really doesn't know how to tell you this. You, not being the most upfront and brave person, will start to worry about her not liking you and you'll question your relationship. This leads to all the "what if she's thinking this or that..." which will just bring your demise. In this case, stop wondering and just ask her straight up what the deal is with you and her.
Think of it this way, you'll never know unless you ask. It's better to find out now so you can still get things going before the spark dies out. Or if worse comes to worse, you can find out that she's not interested anymore and pursue other girls. You don't know how many times stuff like this has happened to me and I just waited it out forever. Then years later the girls ask me why I didn't make a move or tell them how I felt. The least I can do is help others out in similar situations. Carpe diem my friend.
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