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Originally Posted by pigglet
I included that little quotey-quote to indicate what I was responding to. In my experience, it takes some 50/50 before you get to the (hopefully) mutual 100-0. Or else you have to give everyone 100-0, which pretty much = enlightened individual, in my opinion. It's one thing to say "I'm in 100-0," it's another thing to love someone 100%, regardless of what they do. And you're absolutely right, that is the definition of true love. My opinion is that something approaching a "conventional" relationship isn't usually long term stable unless it 100:100, or 50:50, or 1:1 or however you want to state it.
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Well, let me try saying it a different way. It can be 50-50, as long as you don't have to see their 50 before you pony up yours. And as long as you're willing to give your 50 even if you don't see their 50 on the horizon, or any evidence that their 50 will ever show up. If you can take on faith that their 50 will get provided eventually, and you're okay even if it never does.
I'm not talking about a relationship with somebody you've gone out a couple times with. I'm talking about what works in a long-term committed relationship, though not necessarily only an intimate relationship. This is how it works best with family or close friends, too.