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Raeanna, I say this with all due respect: if you cannot stand up to your mother and, with hubby, stand behind your own personal conviction... then your mother has wayyyyy too much power over you. You are a very capable, thinking, grown-up adult and you have no reason (I think?) to fear your mother. If she doesn't respect your own decisions, then it's your job to assert yourself to her and make her see that you are indeed an adult. If she still doesn't see who you are, then I highly recommend walking away from her for a while so that you can regain confidence in your own convictions. If she gets so pissed off that she won't even talk to you after that (is that what you are afraid of?... very few parents actually follow through on that), then what kind of mother is she, really? Where is the unconditional love that she, as a Chrisitan, is supposed to have? (sorry if this sounds harsh, but I have a controlling and insecure mother, and I have been dealing with her since I was about 5 years old, and this is the only way I see it can be done.)

Raeanna, you said it yourself, but I'll say it even louder: THAT IS BULLSHIT. Trust yourself... you said you knew it was absurd. What made you question it? I know the programming gets so deep under your skin (believe me, I do)... but damn girl, that is just crazy talk. That was the most unchristian thing I've ever heard.

Trust yourself!! You've got a better head on your shoulders than any of those people. Seriously.

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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran